Amor y otras cosas: The Power of These Two Words in a Relationship

Amor y otras cosas unveils two significant words in winning the heart: Not yet.

Jorge Luis López Velarde explains the use of these two words in this process.

He also explains how to use this phrase.

In Amor y otras cosas, psychologist and sexologist José Luis López Velarde unravels an intriguing mystery: how can you win someone’s heart with just two words?

In this exciting episode, we will look at the important words that can start strong feelings of love in both men and women.

You’ll learn how to say them at the right time and in the best way to make the person you like really excited about you, and never want to go away.

First, he talks about the first thing that happens: getting a crush.

Having a Crush

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José Luis López Velarde starts by telling the difference between having a crush and mindful love in a relationship.

While a crush happens automatically and without thinking, mindful love needs work and building. The thing that separates them is fighting.

When big fights happen in the relationship, it means that the crush part is ending and the mindful love part is starting.

This isn’t a bad thing, even though some might think it is.

The Importance of Key Words

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José Luis says that, by knowing some mental tricks, you can use plans to get into the other person’s head and make a strong bond.

These plans focus on using two special words: «not yet.»

These words make a state of unclearness and wanting in the other person’s mind, making them feel a strong pull towards you.

Next, these two words are explained a little more.

The Concept of «Not Yet»

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«Not yet» becomes a useful tool to make the crush phase last longer and create a feeling of waiting in the relationship.

José Luis shows this with real-life examples, like a date that becomes a bunch of thoughts and talks afterward.

The person who keeps the «not yet» in the relationship keeps remembering and thinking about the other, making the non-thinking connection stronger.

But to use these, you also need some special plans.

Tolerance to Frustration and Rewards

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José Luis stresses the need to mix the «not yet» with handling disappointment and prizes.

It’s very important to set clear rules to move to the next step in the relationship.

This makes sure that the other person feels eager to try hard and build a deeper link with you.

Talking well about the middle steps is key to avoid confusion and fights.

Creating a Relationship Map

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José Luis suggests that you should make a «map» of your relationship, marking all the big steps, from the first kiss to being committed and beyond.

Between each of these steps, you should find ways to keep the «not yet» tension, making sure both are dedicated and happy with how the relationship is going.

López Velarde concludes that these two words, «not yet,» can be powerful tools to unconsciously and automatically make someone fall in love.

By using them smartly and in a balanced way, you can make a strong bond in the first parts of a relationship.